Travel with in-laws

Unwilling, resolutely unwilling

Let me pay them to go out to play, and more shopping expenses are within my range. I am willing.

But going out to play together is absolutely unwilling. Husband wants to take his husband by himself. I'd rather stay at home alone than go. But my husband has never traveled with his parents.

My in-laws had never traveled before we got married. After marriage, I gave them money and went to several places in Southeast Asia such as Hong Kong, Taiwan Province and Japan. Old people don't sleep early in the morning and rush to eat free hotel breakfast with hot water. Even put a few more eggs in your pocket. I find this kind of behavior intolerable. Going out to travel is relaxing or enjoying, just for the sake of taking pictures of scenic spots and marching on the road. I can't accept it if I can't eat or sleep well.

In my in-laws' eyes, it's a waste to sleep in a hotel and then go to the store to eat in buy buy.

So since everyone doesn't like each other, it's better to travel separately.

By the way, parents should not be arranged in the same tour group as their parents-in-law. In Taiwan Province, the four of them fought and were sent back. Go to the police station and pay a fine to get it out. My husband was ashamed and refused to take someone.

I did. We are a two-child family, so my in-laws have only one son and daughter-in-law. He is sincere to us, and we also love each other. In 17 years, three of us joined my in-laws and five of us went to Sanya. In-laws' pensions are average, but they are willing to spend money on us. Sanya tourism originally planned to pay half of the money for the family, so she gave it to me in advance and asked me to book a hotel ticket. As a result, when we got there, we saw that we had a good time and the food was good, and they stuffed me with 3,000 yuan. When I came back, I gave it to my mother-in-law, who didn't want it, and let me take the flowers.

Last year, I went to Guizhou for 11 days, with my children, my parents and my father-in-law. My mother-in-law didn't go because she was in poor health. We followed the AA system and made a good budget. They gave me their money in advance, and I arranged to eat, live and play all the way. Then my mother-in-law gave me 3 thousand more, so my son's expenses were there.

When I used to take my parents on a trip, my son's money was also paid by my parents. They spent more money, some played and were very happy.

A new vision of grassroots influence: Dr. Phoebe

A while ago, there was an article circulating on the Internet about how to travel with parents or elders. And Dr. Phoebe, who loves to travel with her elders, can't help but pay attention to it? I found that most of the elder travel articles teach you how to take your parents to travel, and then unless you are single, it is correct to travel with the elder on the other side of the woman. The truth has remained the same since ancient times. The mother-in-law always looks more interesting when she looks at her son-in-law, while the mother-in-law always looks more angry when she looks at her daughter-in-law. So I rarely (or so far) read about taking my in-laws to travel. I have just taken my in-laws out several times, and I will have the opportunity to take them out again in the future. I decided to share some small steps with my in-laws. If you want to listen to your daughter-in-law and speak ill of your mother-in-law, please move directly to the North Fan Group. Thank you!

Decide first whether the relationship with your in-laws can withstand the test.

If the relationship between you and your mother-in-law is like playing ordinary love every day, they don't like each other, don't contact each other at ordinary times, or want to stab you with a kitchen knife as soon as they meet, it's really, really better not to travel with your in-laws. No matter who you travel with, even the sister or the other half, there will be many small things that are not satisfactory during the trip, such as getting lost, such as the closure of scenic spots, such as information errors, such as time delays and delays. This is already a challenge to the general feelings, not to mention the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are treading on thin ice. Dear daughters-in-law, who really have a bad relationship with their mother-in-law, Dr. Phoebe cares about you, and please don't give yourself a hard time. Feel free to come to my face and complain at any time, but travel with my in-laws? Forget it!

Is your relationship with your husband stable enough, and is your travel temperament consistent?

I swear that I didn't want to write bisexual language, but before traveling with my in-laws, it is necessary for them to travel by themselves. Once or twice doesn't count, but it has been several times, and both husband and wife have a tacit understanding of travel before they count. Two people come from different families, and their ideas and ways of traveling need to be adjusted. I still remember that when my husband and I went to Europe for a self-help trip for the first time, we were in an atmosphere of quarreling anytime and anywhere. It was the first time that we helped ourselves in Europe for a long time, and many of the steps and habits of the two of us were still unclear, such as when to get up, when to go out, and how many trips to play. In this case, if you travel with your in-laws, there should be a family revolution.

And just like any husband and wife, before you get used to your in-laws, you have to settle your relationship and feelings with your husband. If you are just married or newly married, go out to live in your own house for a few years, and then take your in-laws to travel after cultivating their consistent feelings and tacit understanding of travel!

Start with the same day round trip or light travel plan.

Assuming that the above two points are ok, then don't worry, start with a light travel plan as light as a feather. Or plan the kind of trip that can go back and forth in the same day. Whether it's taking the high-speed train to Tainan, taking the MRT to Danshui or taking the train to Chiayi, as long as it's a light trip, it's ok. Plan your own trip, from going out to going home, and then see if you are going crazy on the trip back and forth on this day as an indicator. If the performance of in-laws is still passing (how can it be like grading primary school students), consider a weekend trip for two to three days next time, and then extend it to three or four days, one week, two weeks.

Find out the habits of elders

Some elders like to join a group, while others like to help themselves. Some people like to visit all the scenic spots at once, take photos with them and leave, but some people like to travel in depth and stroll slowly. At this time, you can ask your husband's family to find out more, or indirectly ask your in-laws what kind of travel they like on other occasions. Is it a city walk? Climb the mountain to see the scenery? Or bask in the sun by the sea? Or you can stroll around the old streets and look at historical relics. Doing these lessons often takes some time, but at least the probability of success (success means successfully completing a trip, and then the elders are not unhappy) will be higher.

Try to take the lead in traveling, and let me know in advance if you want to share the cost.

Since ancient times, the biggest spender has been. If you can invite your in-laws to play, you can at least master the details of the location, route, accommodation and food. Of course, there are ways to play without money. It is also very ok to go to the old streets nearby and take your in-laws to eat local products. In fact, taking your in-laws out to play is your intention, not asking you to spend a lot of money to make ends meet. If you are really in financial difficulties, you just don't have to take your in-laws out to play (hey) XD.

Or if the elders are willing to spend some money, and your in-laws are very dominant and you don't mind playing with them, let them take you on a trip! (The advantage is that if the in-laws are dominant, that is, they pay more, so you can just walk behind your ass. Why not? )

Accommodation and meals are all slightly upgraded.

Since we are traveling with our elders, those trips to the mountains and the sea may not be suitable, and their needs must also be taken into account. In terms of accommodation, in any case, try to separate two rooms from your in-laws and have more private space, which is good for each other during the trip. Never book the same room in order to save money. Moderate privacy is absolutely necessary.

Remember that the main purpose of taking your in-laws out is to make them happy, not to satisfy their own desires.

If you only have a few days' holiday a year, and you are always eager to go abroad to play, and the list of things you want to see is endless, then I suggest not to travel with your in-laws. It is suggested that wherever you want to go, play, see and try, you should all go around with your husband or sister, and then your desire and desire for travel have been satisfied, and then you can play with your in-laws before you can be normal. Take them to play in order to appreciate their hard work, show some filial piety, make them happy, etc., and take this as a starting point. Suppose this trip just allows you to buy what you want (the question is which daughter-in-law dares to shop in front of her mother-in-law, please raise her hand), visit the scenic spots you want, and take the photos you want, then consider it as bonus.

Don't forget the restrooms, rest time and even naps needed by the elders in the usual itinerary, which should be included in the consideration of the itinerary.

During the trip: remember to be patient, be patient and then be patient.

There will always be unexpected disappointments and episodes during the trip, so please be patient and patient again. Qian Qian should never explode in front of her in-laws. The worst case is, it won't happen again. At best, I won't take them out of town next time. They have all gone out and there is no turning back. We must try our best to finish this trip. Remember not to quarrel with your husband in front of them. Because your unintentional outburst may be a small fight in your sweet relationship with your husband, generally speaking, your mother-in-law can talk to her next-door neighbor or other relatives for half a year, and as a result, you will create an image of a fierce wife, but maybe you are obviously a maid and he is an old man in private! So ladies, please be patient. If necessary, go to the bathroom (never at the dLinener table) to chat with your sister or your family, complain and break the news, but in any case, you must try your best to make the trip end safely.

If you really can't stand it, just send your husband.

If your in-laws are old-fashioned people who can't communicate with each other, and they are very exaggerated, and you have kicked your husband countless times in private under the dinner table, and your husband's feet are bruised by you, then I suggest asking him to be your lobbyist. Ask him to communicate with his family, which will only get twice the result with half the effort.

Communicate and communicate again

During every trip, I often like to ask my in-laws' questions, but what is their favorite highlight or the highlight of the whole trip. This can be used as the basis for the next trip, let me know what they like and don't like, and gradually establish a tacit understanding with their in-laws. In addition, after such positive communication, even if there are other unhappy things during the trip, you at least know that they also have fun.

Even though I have to do more homework when traveling with my in-laws, I never regret taking them out. And those moments of travel have also become beautiful memories in our family. I will always remember when we went to Death Valley National Park (extended reading: California Death Valley National Park-when the Valley of Death was full of flower of life), they saw Desert Flower's touch and admiration, and then it rained continuously after taking a series of wild flower photos, and I will also remember watching them climb the rocks in the mountains to take a sweet photo for them. Of course, I also thank my in-laws for their countless understanding and understanding, which made our trip come true. I hope I can take them around the world bit by bit in the future (at least this is my wish as a daughter-in-law).